What are self-esteem building parents like?
The list provided below displays typical behavioral patterns of
successful self-esteem building parents. By consulting it, you can determine
how close to or far away from the ideal self-esteem builder you are right now.
The more of the exhibited behaviors apply to you, the more likely it is that
you will succeed in building your childs self-confidence.
The main features of self-esteem building parents are:
They frequently say to their children not only "I
love you" but also "I like you because
They never patronize their children;
They use a language that can be easily followed and understood;
They listen attentively to their childrens stories, fantasies,
troubles, questions, no matter how incoherent these may seem;
They encourage every demonstration of their childrens aptitudes
or qualities, no matter how different from their own these are;
They meet each childs needs in an individual manner;
They use a discipline-based approach mostly when it comes to rewards;
They encourage each childs own individuality to surface;
They can always find time for their child or children;
They give lots of hugs and kisses;
They encourage kids to look after themselves, teach them life skills
for an independent living;
They give their kids appropriate tasks around the house;
They praise the childs effort, improvements and accomplishments;
They provide emotional support for their childs disappointments
They ask for their childs opinion and listen to it, no matter how
different from their own it might be;
They let their kids express feelings freely;
They demonstrate their trust by letting kids take some calculated risks
and learn from their mistakes;
They do not pretend to be always right and know everything; they rather
say "I dont know" and "I am sorry".
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